Becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom is a big decision to make. There are many things to consider when making this decision. I am so lucky to have married an amazing, hard-working man who cares for his family deeply. Without him I would be lost. I do wish someone would have told me these 10 Things No One Told You About Being A Stay-At-Home Mom.
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It can be very lonely being a stay-at-home mom. The only conversation you have is with your kids. This makes it hard on your husband when he gets home and all you want to do is talk his ear off.
Triple The Housework
When you are staying at home with your kids all day, there will be so much more to clean up. Think about when you were working. The house was empty all day, so there was less to clean up. Being at home all day, the kids will play and make a mess. There will be more laundry and more dishes. Housework triples when there is someone home all day.
The Fights Between Kids
If you have more than one child, the longer they are together the more arguments they will have. My two boys are always arguing about something. The kids get tired of each other and bicker about toys, or space you name it.
Grocery Shopping is Harder
When you are at home all day with your kids, sometimes you need a minute to get away. Grocery shopping sometimes is your only escape. That is unless you have to take them with you. That’s when shopping gets harder. Kids will always see something they want. It may be a simple snack or a toy but this makes your short trip even longer. Not to mention having to pile everyone in and out of the car.
There Seems To Be No “Me” Time
Your day starts before the sun comes up and doesn’t end. At ALL! Even at bedtime you have a list of things you still need to get done. Relaxing doesn’t seem optional. There will be nights that you have to be up all night with a sick kid, cleaning up vomit or trying to break a fever. This can be very overwhelming. You will need to take a couple of minutes everyday to yourself. Even if it’s just to take a shower it will make a world of difference.
Peace And Quite?
What is that? Kids are loud. They talk loud, they play loud they even breath loud. There is no quite time. Unless your are lucky and have kids who naps. Only one of mine still takes a nap but not everyday. Get used to some noise.
Talking On The Phone Gets Difficult
If it’s to pay a bill, schedule an appointment or just trying to talk to a friend kids will interrupt you. Pulling on your leg, wanting a snack, or just to tell on their brother. Your phone calls will be shortened.
Watching T.V. Is a Very Rare
Our television is either off, turned to Pappa Pig or some other kids show. YouTube is a big thing in our house. The boys love to watch people playing video games. My point is that you do not have control over what is on anymore. It isn’t about you anymore. This wont be too big of a deal considering the fact you are too busy to watch T.V. anyway.
Grocery Bill Increases
The more people who are home means the more food they will eat. You will be buying more snacks, you have to feed the kids breakfast, lunch and dinner at home. As where a daycare would be providing that for you, now you have to buy those meals and snacks. Budget and shop what is on sale to help lower your spending. Really look at what snacks are necessary.
Just because you do not leave your house and clock in at a job doesn’t mean you are not completely exhausted. You will probably be even more tired than before. Your day doesn’t end at 5 anymore. You don’t get “down time”. Besides it is already said that women need more sleep than men and let’s face it, we do not get it. We want to make sure our husbands are getting all the sleep they can get because they work so hard. It is so easy to forget that we too are working hard and need some TLC.
Why We Made The Decision For Me To Stay Home
We made the decision about six to eight months after we had our third child. I had went back to work and quickly realized that childcare cost for two children was more than we could afford. It was going to cost us less if I stayed home. What I didn’t know where these 10 Things No One Tells You About Being A Stay-At-Home Mom.
I knew this would be a life changing decision that would involve sacrifice on both our ends. My husband would be working harder and I would be changing life as I knew it. I am so happy that I am able to stay home with my kids.
Yes it gets lonely, yes I am exhausted but I tend to be too focused on everyone else’s needs to worry about my own. I think it’s a “mom thing”. I did this before I stayed at home. It is much more important to me to make sure everyone else is taken care of.
There are several things on this list that apply to ALL MOMS. We work so hard to take care of our families. Whether we are working outside, working at home or are a Stay-At-Home mom, we all have struggles. We all feel alone at times.
If you have ever felt this way let me tell you, You are not alone! I have been there, I am there. You can do it. It will get easier. You are enough! Never feel like you aren’t doing anything for your family, because you are doing one of the most important things a woman can do. You are being MOM. This is the most rewarding job you can ever have.
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